My "smarts" can get in the way when I'm trying to help people. After hearing their situation, I may think I know solutions or at least resources for them—an article, a book, a video.

But it often doesn't help. People's situations are complex and messy, full of contradictions—just as mine are.

Years ago, I realized people needed more wisdom from the Holy Spirit and less from me.

I'm reminded of Paul's discussion of the cross and resurrection in 1 Corinthians 1:18-31 where he writes, “For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength” (1‬:‭25‬).

That teaching firmly puts me in my place!

This is why I like coaching. Done well, coaching draws out how the Spirit may be leading a person. Through questions and reflection we explore deeply and remain open to things that don't necessarily make sense to us. Rather than focusing in on our experience and ideas, we explore what else may be going on, and what God might be doing.

Perhaps you've felt this tension too—the pull between wanting to help and recognizing the limitations. I'm still learning, but I'm discovering that creating space for someone to hear from God is almost always more powerful than any answer I could provide.

Grace & Peace,

Keith Webb